On FB a picture came by with the following advice: “Get to know yourself first, before you judge others!”. We could not resist responding because of course the following question arises: “If one knows oneself, one can judge then?”.
So we put it to the person who shared the picture, who responded with: "When you know yourself, you know not to judge."
To know yourself
"Self-knowledge is the beginning of all wisdom!": is a saying that most people are familiar with. "Knowledge gives power!": also. "Anyone who knows themselves knows everyone!": is also such a beautiful one.
So if you know yourself, you are wise, powerful and you know how everyone works. There is no need to judge others (wisdom). One already knows how the other will react to an action on your part (knowledge). One then has the choice to leave others alone or not (power). Of course, the easiest thing to do is always keep silent and let everyone in their wisdom. But of course it doesn't work that way. By letting others in their wisdom you ignore for yourself and the other the growth opportunities that are often hidden in the contacts that one tries to avoid. So Dillema.
Judging that one is judging
We have never said of anyone that he/she is judging. How many times we have been judged that we are judging is beyond count. We always ask polite questions and always give polite answers. Out of interest in the correspondent's opinion, we keep asking questions and always return polite responses.
They all get angry and tell us that we are judging. We are soon unfriended or banned from the group. This by people who say that they are spiritual and that challenges and inconveniences are there to learn from. Apparently this doesn't count for them.
But we don't have to judge that. We know they have some time to go before they really know themselves. We allow them this time, without judgment.
Eddy and Rita